Sara and Ben from 'Love Is Blind' have very different versions of the end of their relationship

• On "Love Is Blind" season eight, Sara chose not to marry Ben at the altar.
• She said no because she and Ben weren't on the same wavelength about politics and religion.
• At the reunion, Sara said they'd talked about continuing dating, but Ben ghosted her.

Warning: Major spoilers ahead for "Love Is Blind" season eight.

"Love Is Blind" has resulted in relatively few marriages, but sometimes couples try to continue their relationships even after saying "I don't" at the altar.

That seemed like it could be the case after Sara, a 29-year-old oncology nurse, said no to Ben, a 28-year-old account executive, at the altar. The couple two had gotten engaged despite some bumpy political and ideological discussion the series' eighth season following singles from the Twin Cities area. But ultimately, Sara decided they couldn't overcome their differences.

At the reunion, Sara revealed that she and Ben had continued dating after their wedding day — until she said he ghosted her. Ben, however, had a different take on what happened in their relationship.

Here's a recap of Ben and Sara's "Love Is Blind" romance and what each person has said about their breakup.

Ben and Sara talked about politics in the pods and got engaged

In episode two, Ben and Sara bonded in the pods over a love of food, and the fact that both of their fathers make great steak. Their discussion eventually moved to deeper subjects like faith: While Ben is Christian, Sara isn't particularly religious and worries about discrimination against her sister, who is gay. In turn, Ben reassured her that he's comfortable with LGBTQ+ people and doesn't believe queerness is a sin.

During a date in episode four, Ben told Sara that he was falling in love with her. Sara thanked him, but wanted to talk more about their political beliefs. She became more engaged in politics after the election of Donald Trump in 2016, and the murder of George Floyd in Minneapolis in 2020.

Ben, however, said that he didn't vote in the previous election and that he doesn't have opinions on the Black Lives Matter movement. Sara candidly told him that she didn't like his responses.

"I will tell you, basic human rights, equality," she told him. "I need someone to be on the same page with me about that. I feel like that speaks volumes about who you are as a person and morals and values and, you know, how you think of others."

In episode five, the couple continued to deepen their relationship. Sara, however, still had some reservations about Ben's social beliefs and politics. Ben reassured her that he intended to grow and learn, and felt that his beliefs align with her own.

Ben proposed to Sara in episode five, and she said yes. The pair finally met face-to-face later in that episode, and were one of five couples producers selected to follow on the couples' getaway in Honduras.

Sara's doubts about their compatibility grew once they were back in Minneapolis,and she eventually said no at the altar

Ben and Sara had a great time during the engagement trip and didn't encounter any major drama. They even talked about how physically compatible they were. Unfortunately, once they returned to the real world, things took a turn.

While their parents approved of the match and seemed relatively okay with the speed of their engagement, Sara was still hung up on Ben's religion. As a devoted Christian, he attends church regularly. Sara was willing to give it a shot and attended a service with him, but she was lukewarm on it. When Ben didn't know his church's stance on LGBTQ+ issues, Sara looked for a sermon about it and didn't like the traditional and regressive messaging she found.

Though Ben clarified he didn't agree with the sermon and said he would be open to exploring other, more progressive churches with her, Sara remained uncertain. Sara's sister and her sister's partner also met Ben and questioned him over his beliefs, leaving Sara feeling even more unsure.

"I caution you as your sister, it is not real right now," Sara's sister told her after meeting Ben.

Sara also discovered a viral TikTok that Ben said was about him, where a woman alluded to a "Love Is Blind" season eight contestant having treated her poorly when they dated. Ben, for his part, admitted it was probably true but that it had happened so long ago he had no memory of it and hadn't thought to disclose it to Sara.

In the lead-up to their wedding day, Ben expressed essentially no doubts about wanting to marry Sara, maintaining that he would say yes and believed Sara would do the same. Sara, on the other hand, was plagued with doubt and even spoke about their differences while getting ready in the bridal suite.

Ultimately, she said no at the altar.

"Ben, I love you so much. But I've always wanted a partner to be on the same wavelength, and so today I can't," Sara told Ben. "I'm sorry but I don't want that to be misunderstood. I still love you and everything about you is amazing, and I care about you so much."

Ben took it on the chin and seemed unfazed, quickly responding that he understood, still loved her, and wanted to stay together to grow their relationship. Sara, clearly taken aback, demurred, telling him they'd talk about it later.

After the ceremony, Ben's friends comforted him and they all said they were surprised by the outcome. Then they prayed for healing for both Ben and Sara. Meanwhile, Sara debriefed with her mom and sister in the van, telling them about her dissatisfying conversations with Ben about LGBTQ+ issues and Black Lives Matter. She also told cameras she felt there was no "curiosity" coming from Ben to explore and expand his mindset. She also said their relationship may simply have been only on the surface level.

At the reunion, Sara and Ben told different stories of what happened after their wedding

Despite having a cordial on-screen breakup, a lot more went down between Ben and Sara after filming wrapped.

Sara revealed at the reunion that she and Ben continued to live together a week or two after the wedding and that she still had hope they could work it out. She said she and Ben had discussed her upcoming extended work assignment in Nashville and had agreed that Ben would join her there so they could continue to work on their relationship.

Sara said she drove to Nashville first, and at the end of the 12-hour drive, she discovered that Ben had removed her from Find My Friends. He didn't reach out to her initially, and then later sent what she called several scripted apology messages, which she didn't respond to.

Ben acknowledged that he and Sara had talked about him joining her in Nashville, but maintained that the final conversation they'd had right before she left gave him the impression they were broken up; according to Ben, he removed her from Find My Friends and cut her off because that's what he does when relationships end in order to heal.

According to Sara, Ben then reached out shortly before the reunion, suggesting that they should "rehearse" for the questions. Ben confirmed that Jimmy from "Love Is Blind" season six had advised Ben to make sure he was on good terms with Sara before the reunion. Sara felt that Ben was only worried about his image and that he'd essentially dropped her, while Ben countered that she ghosted him for two months by not replying to his apology texts.

In the end, Sara was left feeling that maybe the TikTok about Ben ghosting a girl was more in line with his personality than she'd realized. She had no regrets about saying no at the altar, and said she believed in retrospect that Ben was inauthentic and that he'd love-bombed her during filming.

Despite the frosty note they ended the reunion on, the two are still following each other on Instagram. During the "Love Is Blind" reunion watch party during the SXSW festival in Austin, which was attended by Business Insider, Ben and Sara were cordial, at one point standing next to one another and chatting.

The "Love Is Blind" season eight reunion is streaming on Netflix.